Learning is essential to our existence. Just like food nourishes our bodies, information and continued learning nourishes our minds.
This is why at CKDIGITAL, we ensure learning never stops. Every month, a member of the team trains the rest of the team on a given topic.
Our Digital Marketing Specialist, Adewale Adeyemi facilitated the 5 Love Languages book review.
The book, the 5 Love Languages was written by Gary Chapman in 1992. He concluded after 30 years of marriage counseling that there are 5 emotional love languages. He also stated that as individuals we must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language.
Why is love so important?
- The need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need.
- People will cross seas, deserts, mountains, and endure untold hardships because of love.
- People have died because of love.
- Every child needs love and affection, the sense he or she belongs and is wanted.
- With adequate love and affection, the child will develop into a responsible adult.
- Without adequate supply, a child may become emotionally/socially retarded.
The emotional love tank
- Inside every child is an “Emotional Love Tank” waiting to be filled with Love.
- A full love tank develops the child but an empty love tank will make the child misbehave.
- Cravings of love make the child misbehave. Hence they seek love in the wrong places.
Emotional love tank in marriage
- At the heart of mankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another.
- Marriage is designed to meet the need for intimacy and love.
- Keeping the emotional love tank full is very important to marriage.
- Empty equals disaster waiting to happen.
What are the 5 love languages?
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Receiving gifts
- Acts of service
- Physical Touch
Words of affirmation
These are verbal compliments or words of appreciation. They aren’t verbal flattery to get what you want but about doing something for the wellbeing of the one you love.
Quality time
This is giving UNDIVIDED attention to your partner. It includes quality conversation, advice, sympathy, listening ears, and quality activities.
Receiving gifts
Gift is a symbol of thinking of or remembering someone. Cost doesn’t matter if a gift is the primary love language. Sometimes, the best gifts can also be physical presence.
Acts of service
This has to do with doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. E.g. Washing, cleaning, Painting
It requires thought, planning, and effort.
Physical touch
Physical touch is a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. This includes holding hands, kissing, hugging, and sex.
Conclusion
Love is not the answer to everything, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bother us.
The key is to learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it.
